Pacing Your Relationship

Song of Songs 8:4 NIV - Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. Keep Reading...

When too much weight is put on ice, it begins to crack up. When we put too much pressure on our courting relationships, they also will crack up. Weight needs to be evenly distributed across a relationship so that it does not begin to fracture.

Sometimes, spiritual pressure can be put on our relationships when we feel compelled to be praying together often. Prayer is good. But too much prayer together can give a false sense of closeness in a young relationship.

When courting couples get physical together (different levels of kissing, hugging and touching), they put undue pressure on their relationship. It's like driving a tank over thin ice, hoping desperately not to break through the ice. Couples that focus their time and attention on physical affection give each other a false sense of security. Physical lust will always fracture a relationship.

Words of commitment (i.e. "I love you.") before it's the right time can put a weight on a relationship that is too heavy. Be careful of expressing words of love in an emotionally charged moment. Be certain that you have your heavenly Father's direction before you exchange life-altering words of love and commitment.

Allow the Father to lead you across the ice. He knows the best way to spread your weight across the relationship, causing each aspect to grow in sync with one another. Our own independence causes us to dash out into relationships and crack them up by undue pressure. Follow your Father. Lean on his wisdom. He will ensure safe growth in your special relationship.